Exhibit A : the house is not ready for us to move in
“I’ve had an epiphany” my husband screams from the bedroom as I fret in the lounge. I am siting at my computer reading the invoice from the removals company for perhaps the 18th time that day. It is around 9am.
“What kind of epiphany?” I manage to mutter thinking for sure he’s going to say something about the joinery that he has been designing for the new house. I brace myself for him to tell me that the extra 2mm he’s “epiphanised” will make the cupboards even better.
But no.
“I understand why you’re so anxious about moving” he says. “It’s your childhood, it all makes sense to me now”.
But it doesn’t. Mr Pencil can blame my childhood for a lot of things but he doesn’t realise that all people get stressed about moving. Or don’t they?
Next week we have to move out of this beautiful pencil box and hand it over to it’s new owner. Our new house is not quite ready for us to move in yet (it has no roof which is reason enough not to live in it yet) and so we are going to stay in the home of a gorgeous friend of mine who will be overseas for a month.
I do not like change. In fact I would say I am emotionally allergic to change. But one thing that I hate (and fear) more than change is chaos and disorder. I think I am emotionally anaphylactic in response to chaos and disorder. It makes me feel like I am going to die, or at least suffocate till I am within inches of death. I am also a control freak which adds a lovely touch of hysteria onto my feeling of impending death.
Do you know how much chaos and disorder is involved in moving house twice in two months? Do you know how many THINGS there are to think about?
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I have booked packers and movers and spend most of my day phoning them to confirm and reading over the invoice to check that everything is right. I cannot quite believe that people are just going to show up at my house as it is and spend the day putting it into boxes without my neurosis to help them along.
I have phoned the movers so many times to confirm that this is in fact what they do, that when I called this morning (after a hideous weekend of not being able to contact them because they actually take some time off from me over the weekend) the lovely Jo greeted my “Hi , it’s Lana” with “Yes love, they are coming to your place at 7:30 on Monday morning and they will pack up the whole house, you don’t need to worry”. I think I may be the laughing stock of the removal company.
And now of my blog readers.
How are you with change? And with chaos?
PS All donations of calm inducing narcotics will be gratefully accepted – just sneak them past my husband. Thanks *continues to shake in terror *
I like the idea of change because I get bored easily but when it comes, I’m grumpy and out of sorts – it’s the comfort of the comfort zone. Eventually I sort it out though and acclimatise:) With you though, moving is stressful. Much support and calm thoughts sent your way xo
Lana, you have to focus on the end game here. It’s the only way you’ll get through it. Imagine your beautiful new house that you’ll be moving into in a few short weeks, and think of how happy you’ll be that you don’t ever have to move again if you don’t want to.
Also, those packers? A GODSEND. We used them the time before last when we moved house and they were brilliant. Everything was packed, moved and unpacked within two days.
Listen to opera. Always calms me down. Having once been in the removalist game I know that moving house brings out the best and the worst in everyone. Good news is the uneasiness that you are currently feeling will be very short term and the moment you start feeling that the downlift of your possessions has gone well, the world will start looking good again.
Hate moving. Plan on spending the rest of my life in my lovely apartment, so I feel your pain having to move twice in a month.
It’s hideous and anyone who says it’s not is a liar! Try to think about the first bit as a holiday. You can pack for that.
May the force be with you, x
I’m with you Lana, I don’t handle change well. When we moved to our current home, I should have been excited. Our first home together! We were finally home owners! No more landlords or inspections! My stress levels were out of control with bank people, solicitors and lawyers all shitting me. Once we moved in I dramatically declared “we are going to live in this house and die in this house, because I’m never moving again!”. Now with a couple of kids we are rapidly outgrowing this place, but the thought of moving makes be break out in hives.
I gate chaos too, so my sympathies! Can you see these as a longer term bonus – you will have the chance to cull, and really understand your furniture and where things should go as a result of the two stage move? (Sorry – that’s all I’ve got). Btw, enjoying Switzerland currently and managing to cope with four of us living out of suitcases (so it can be done if the reason is good enough – and hopefully your new home when finished will be!)
This resonates with me. We are just about to move into our long-awaited newly built house and I am scared! We have to move a mere 100metres from our very comfortable and luxurious ‘shed’ across the paddock to our beautiful home. The project manager says it will be finished next week and I say, ‘Slow down! I’m not ready!’ but I don’t think I will ever be ready to face the chaos and confusion of having to sort out all our stuff. I should be excited!
I also dislike change. I am a proud Luddite. When change is definitely for the better, you have me on side. I just don’t support change for the sake of change. Quite often I am told to embrace change….because ! You will never win me with a “because”.
The moment that you see your possessions arriving at the new “pencil box” that uncertainty that you now feel will disappear. You will quickly find that you are in your new comfort zone and you will be glad that you have arrived.