My onesie fashion confession

I have a fashion confession that I need to get out into the open.

I’d suggest you get comfortable before you listen to me but that might be easier once you’ve read the post (and followed my style advice) because my sense of fashion is closer to what you’d call comfort than couture.

As I stall my confession for fear of bring ridiculed let me give you two very important facts as background.

1 It’s cold
2 I’ve never been a trendsetter

Okay.

I own a onesie.

I don’t just own it, I wear it and I love it.

It’s not one of those uber cool fluffy animal types. It’s way more functional and far less cute. In fact it looks a lot like a hazmat uniform used only for when you have to clean chemical spills – the fact that it’s white doesn’t help.  Nor the fact that it’s the full deal with feet included and it is by far the most comfortable item of clothing that I own.  Like clouds for your body.

I actually received it as a gift last year when I was still working for iVillage and at the time I laughed and laughed and laughed. And all the girls in the office who also received one, laughed and laughed. And then when I was finished laughing and no one was looking I tried it on and fell in love.

I haven’t worn it in front of anyone other than my husband and my son, nor do I intend to and judging from their reaction I think that’s a pretty wise move.

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I’ve kept the onesie secret for a while now but lately I have seen a few famous faces rocking the style….

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Admittedly not even One Direction can make the onesie look cool

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Justin Bieber who, now that I think of it, is not that much older than my son

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Beyonce (who is actually quite cool) rocks the onesie. At least she does it in bed not out on the street

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Macklemore who is just an incredible writer and singer can get away with a onesie because he probably bought it from a Thrift Shop

Brad Pitt onesie

Brad Pitt, however, cannot and should not get away with wearing a onesie in public

Although I must admit to having seen horses wearing them too.

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Very warm horse obviously has no access to a mirror

At least I have never left the house in mine. Yet.

Do you own a onesie? Would you ? Could you?

Here’s a healthy tip: Don’t take your vitamins

155628625I am the world’s easiest person to market to. If you tell me that your product will do something miraculous I believe you – which may explain why I recently bought 3 tubes of mascara simply called “better than false eye lashes” (it’s actually not better than false eyelashes– in fact it’s only just better than using cocoa powder on your lashes*). It’s also why I sometimes (always) spend way too much money in the cosmetics section of any department store. I see a sign saying purporting that a certain cream will reduce fine lines and I’m there before my lines get any deeper.

It’s not just make up that get’s me – I once had to explain to a washing machine repair person that the reason I had used washing powder for a top loader for my front loader was because the ad said it was really, really good (and I am not brilliant at reading the small print).

But the one thing that I have managed to steer clear of is health food proclamations. I just don’t fall for them – I understand that there are certain things you should stay away from like you know, too many additives and palm sugar and overly processed foods but I don’t really rush into buying “super foods”. Especially super foods that are only grown in remote South American regions and exported all over the world so that the local people can no longer eat them – but that’s a rant for another day.

I’ve not fallen for bread with extra fibre and added iron and 25% more calcium because I know that I’m getting all the fibre, iron and calcium I need from foods that actually had this stuff to start.

So, as you can imagine, I have never really considered taking vitamins. It’s been a point of much contention because my husband’s family like vitamins a LOT and I am often alerted to the miraculous benefits of ingesting them. And it’s not just them– people everywhere are seeking to teach me the error of my ways by suggesting I take vitamins as a preventative measure or to cure any existing ailment.

It’s been a hard job justifying to ardent vitamin takers why I don’t slug down A’s B’s or C’s – until I read this in The New York Times by Paul A. Offit, chief of the infectious diseases division of the Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia

Most people assume that, at the very least, excess vitamins can’t do any harm. It turns out, however, that scientists have known for years that large quantities of supplemental vitamins can be quite harmful indeed.

In a study published in The New England Journal of Medicine in 1994, 29,000 Finnish men, all smokers, had been given daily vitamin E, beta carotene, both or a placebo. The study found that those who had taken beta carotene for five to eight years were more likely to die from lung cancer or heart disease.
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There are a lot more scary satistics before the article goes on to say

What explains this connection between supplemental vitamins and increased rates of cancer and mortality? The key word is antioxidants.

To neutralize free radicals, the body makes antioxidants (good). Antioxidants can also be found in fruits and vegetables, specifically in selenium, beta carotene and vitamins A, C and E. Some studies have shown that people who eat more fruits and vegetables have a lower incidence of cancer and heart disease and live longer. The logic is obvious. If fruits and vegetables contain antioxidants, and people who eat fruits and vegetables are healthier, then people who take supplemental antioxidants should also be healthier. It hasn’t worked out that way.

The likely explanation is that free radicals aren’t as evil as advertised. (In fact, people need them to kill bacteria and eliminate new cancer cells.) And when people take large doses of antioxidants in the form of supplemental vitamins, the balance between free radical production and destruction might tip too much in one direction, causing an unnatural state where the immune system is less able to kill harmful invaders. Researchers call this the antioxidant paradox.

You can read the full article here.

Paradox indeed. I’ve never felt healthier about not taking vitamins or worrying about anti-oxidant intake. Even though if you offer me an anti-oxidant in a cream that’s guaranteed to remove fine lines I don’t know how I will react.

Do you take vitamins or supplements?

Here’s the thing about blogging I just don’t get

I am relatively new to blogging again although I actually started my blog in 2009. And no, I am not slow – I just took a couple of years off to work my arse off on a much bigger blog (read website).

And now I find myself back on my blog and I call myself a blogger. Even my email signature reads blogger because it sounds much more professional than world champion toast eater.  But four years have passed and my real life friends still don’t really know what a blog is.  I mean they get the BIG blogs  – no, actually they don’t. They get websites and they get writing online but they don’t get the word “post”, they don’t know any bloggers and they don’t understand why people that don’t know me would be interested in reading about my mother or my dinner. It’s not that they aren’t supportive of me or they don’t enjoy reading about my dinner – it’s just that they don’t live their lives online.

So when I am perplexed by the vagaries of blogging and I try to articulate to them how someone I don’t know has just let me into their lives in the most profound way or when I moan to them about the online bitchiness of people who don’t even know each other, they look at me like I am spending too much time on my own.

There are so many posts (words written on a website for my non blogging friends) about the mummy wars, and about bloggers that write sponsored posts and bloggers that don’t want to read other blogs and bloggers that hate the term blogger and I wonder if it’s all a little insular.

My friends that work and my friends that don’t work just go about working or not working – they don’t invest time and emotional angst into worrying about whether other mothers are working or not and how they are being judged. Sure they read the newspaper and they see the occasional article flare up about the working mum or the stay at home mum but then they turn the page or click on the next story and they read about a woman who disappeared for 11 years and then they read about the NDIS and then they check the weather.

It’s not that they don’t care. I have some of the most awesome and passionate friends on the planet, it’s just that they don’t get trapped into worrying about the judgments other people are making on their own lives.
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I love social media and I feel so lucky to be part of it. I have connected to people and thoughts that I would never had the opportunity to encounter were it not for Twitter and blogging and now my Facebook page which extends to people I don’t know in real life.  I log on frequently (where frequently is ALL THE TIME) and I enjoy the debate and the journey. Sometimes I even change the way I have been thinking about an issue and I am grateful for the way my perceptions and thoughts are challenged.  Sometimes I just laugh, sometimes I reflect, often I just enjoy something without thinking I HAVE to take something away with me.

But I don’t understand the rivalry. And I hate the thought that it seems to be some kind of competition.

It takes a minute or two to get the gist of a post and if you don’t like it you click away.  It costs you nothing. Only a minute of your time which isn’t really a cost if you consider you’ve had the opportunity to open your mind. And if you read a post on one blog it doesn’t mean you can’t read (and love) a post on another.  And if you read a post that is sponsored it doesn’t cost you more than reading a post that is not.  You aren’t being duped – you’re been giving content you can choose to engage with or walk away from. If you read something that doesn’t fit in with your way of thinking it’s not a personal insult, it doesn’t mean you are wrong – it just means that someones experiences are different to yours and they have a different point of view. It’s an amazing thing this interweb – you can read millions of pages and you can decide what you read again, what you share and what you don’t want to read again. You can decide how to react, you own that – not the person writing the post.

I blog because I love writing. I love having a place to share my thoughts, the things that make me laugh and cry and think. I love that millions of other people are doing it too because it allows me the chance to share in their thoughts and experiences.

I just hate that there has to be so much negativity associated with bloggers and blogging – sometimes we need to be reminded that in the real world there isn’t as much judgment.

Here’s a reminder to open your legs

I am a planner. I like to know what’s happening in advance and I like to prepare for it. So if I am aware of a function or important date my internal diary freak switches up a notch. I start to think about my hair – do I need to get it cut or coloured? Should I book a fake tan? What should I wear? Will it be cold or rainy? which will look daggier – my umbrella or drenched hair?

But there is one event that takes greater planning than most others and it doesn’t involve a single hair appointment, actually cancel that, it doesn’t involve a hairdressing appointment.

My pap smear check up is meticulously planned.

1. I always take a spare pair of undies. Fresh, pretty undies that I keep in my bag to change into just before I set off to my appointment. For the life of me I cannot figure out why I do this because the first thing the doctor does is ask me to go into a room (where he can’t see me) and take OFF my undies and put on a gown. I always then fold my knickers into the tiniest possible swatch of material and hide them under my clothes. So he never sees them. But still they have to be pretty. And fresh.

2. I also make sure that I have clean shaven legs. I can guarantee you that he does not look at my legs so why I don’t make sure that they are clean shaven when I go to the beach I am not quite sure.

3. For some reason I like to have my toe nails painted.  Don’t even ask
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So I am not alone.

But I am not undermining the importance of a pap smear – in fact this whole post was devised to remind me, er you to have one. And to share this video because the last line said to share it with the girls that I really love and I love my readers

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How do you prepare for a pap smear?

Hollywood

I have become a full-blown tourist and it’s not nearly as bad as I thought it would be. In fact it’s quite a lot of fun.

We were in LA for two days. Just two days. Now normally given a luxurious bed, access to the latest Hollywood blockbusters from the comfort of said luxurious bed and a full room service menu it would be very hard to prise me from my bed, But the lure of the bright lights and sugary delights got to me. That and I was so excited to be there I couldn’t sit still

LA is to big to do in two days so we just stuck to Hollywood where we were staying but Hollywood is too big to do in two days so we kind of stuck to one block (although we left for a while in a tour bus…)

So what can you cover in two days in one block of Hollywood with a 10 year old and two 43 year olds?

Walk of Fame

How many down and out people dressed up in novelty costumes can you fit onto one block?  A LOT.  It is a little known fact that only I seem to have unearthed that there are more people trying to make a buck in costume than there are actual stars on the walk of fame (and there are 2400 stars). Little Pencil was amazed and fascinated by the stars (and slightly unnerved by the gangster types with their jeans at their knees and their tattooed necks) and kept dropping to the floor to be photographed on the floor with the golden lettering of a celebrity.  Mr Pencil kept having to be reminded not to just accept the CD’s that said gangsters were peddling. Seriously, Walk of Fame I am not sure why you allow so many try hards to tout their business on your celebrityness because it’s a little tacky (and rather filthy)*

Madam Tussauds Wax Museum

I love a celebrity as much as the next person which is one of the reasons that I love a wax work. All the celebrity and none of the intimidation what’s not to like?  It was pretty cool to see and prod Justin Timberlake, Britney Spears and hundreds of other stars.  What stood out for me? Even in the world of wax where everyone looks perfect – they have models of Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt together and a short space away staring almost wistfully at them there is a single model of Jennifer Aniston.  Hollywood. Always a story.

Celebrity Drive

We kind of had to take the drive around the celebrity homes because

a)    I am very nosy

b)   It was an open top bus and I wanted to feel the wind in my hair (or look like a tourist)

c)    I am fascinated by celebrity

d)   My husband thought that if we were on a tour for 2 hours I would be unable to spend any money

We were led to believe we would see the homes of the rich and the famous. We saw the homes of the rich.  Highlights included (and I kid you not) the former home of Carol Burnett, the house that Sylvester Stallone filmed one scene in Rocky and the former home of Lucille Ball.  There were a lot of former homes shown to us. A lot.  No current homes (except for Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes but you could only see the chimney).

That said our driver was wonderfully entertaining when he remembered that we were there. The tour ended with a drive through Rodeo Drive and some other swish shopping areas. You could hear my husband’s audible sigh of relief that we were not getting off the bus.

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Pretty cool to see the sign depicted in so many images and definitely an icon, But still – just a sign on a mountain side.**  What was pretty cool was from our viewpoint we could see all of LA (which is just huge although it is covered in a not so fine layer of smog)

Guinness World of Records

My son is a mad keen reader of the Guinness Books. In fact he most loves a gory record like the person with the most piercings in his lip so it wasn’t surprising that he wanted to see the museum where such records come to life. Except they don’t. The museum was a little old, not everything worked and the things that did required money (in addition to the admission price). But Little Pencil enjoyed it… for about half an hour after which time we left

The Hollywood Museum

Great name for a museum no? I was led to believe that I would see some of Hollywood’s greatness. My son was convinced we would see how movies were made. We actually saw a LOT of stuff with Lucille Ball’s name on it. In fact there was a whole floor (in a two floor attraction) dedicated to Lucille Ball.  It was in glass cases so you couldn’t get to close and that was probably the best part of it.

Mel’s Diner

The first quintessential diner that we went to and I loved it. Not because of the food because that was barely edible but because it was everything that I had visualized when I read Archie comics 35 years ago. The waitress was like a caricature and so was the setting, it was a fun place to eat and be in, it certainly wasn’t healthy and I am sure that people that eat there often live large but not long.

Hard Rock

My husband decided that we had to eat at Hard Rock because it was very Hollywood. It was actually very Hard Rock which was nice in a Hollywood kind of way.  I could have eaten at Hard Rock in Sydney but the portions would not have been quite so mammoth. America you are going to make yourselves ill with your portions.

Sugar and Fat

Seriously what is it with the sugar? They have apples dipped in caramel dipped in chocolate and then dipped in caramel again.  They have cupcakes the size of my head with more icing than cake…  I liked that a lot.

There is nothing you can’t get with sugar and very little that you can actually order without cheese. I almost got diabetes window shopping.

LA was great to us.  We didn’t see much but we saw enough to make us all very happy little tourists.

*I may or may not be quite a snob

** I may be a little jaded by my travels

Being grateful is better than being… anything else

It is fairly well documented that I am slightly neurotic (using slightly to mean over the top) and well, I am a little bit of a scaredy cat.  I have always been afraid of huge weather phenomena and  if I must admit it, end of the world prophecies.

Sufficeth it to say I have been a bit of a wreck this week.  Coping okay on the outside (although my husband may not agree with this) but inside feeling frightened, scared and particularly bleak.

I heard a woman on the radio speaking about how these continuing disasters (the earthquakes, tsunamis, floods and cyclones for the reader that is living under a rock) affect the population and how important it is for those of us that are living out of the affected areas to try and return to “normal activities” rather than getting stuck in the disaster.

I realize how important that is – especially for my Little Pencil and to some extent all the people around me who are having to not only put up with my constant jumpiness but deal with the very maudlin air around me.

I spoke to my sister on the phone today and I heard something in the background that sounded distinctly like a siren.  I panicked and yelled down the phone ‘what’s that noise, what’s happening, are you okay?’ .  ‘Um yes, Lana’ she replied, ‘that “siren” is the national anthem playing in the background on TV’.  Allright then I may not have returned to normal activities completely but I am giving it my best shot.

So to get me back on track I have decided I need to focus on all the good things in my life – all  the things that I am incredibly grateful for

  • My husband – he is supportive, compassionate and caring beyond what is reasonable expected of a human
  • My son – he is just himself and in that he is perfect
  • My sister who always gives me balance and unconditional support

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But seriously I am grateful for the fact that

  • I have the most awesome job and am surrounded by smart and amazing people both physically and online  and I am way too busy to sink into despair about  the fact that the world is falling apart
  • I don’t live in Japan
  • I don’t live in Libya (or in fact any place where I hear news of air strikes and heavy military bombardment in my neighbourhood)
  • I can go to sleep at night in a safe, comfortable and peaceful home
  • I have perspective (even if it’s only a tiny bit),  I can see what is happening to others and instead of feeling terrible for myself I can rejoice in how lucky I am and donate as generously as I can to others that are not even one millionth as lucky as I am.
  • I can hope for a better future for all of humanity

I really am truly grateful.  And that is what I am going to focus on.

 

Are you Teflon or are you sticky?

I am a very sticky person.  You only need to tell me one of your quirks, your worries or your superstitions and it will stick with me.

If someone tells me that they believe that eating from plastic containers is bad for you I usually glare at them like they are a bit strange. I try to make up some scientific reason why they are wrong and I am right and then when they leave I start to feverishly read through millions of pages of Google searches.  I usually end up hurling my entire plastic collection into the bin.  This happens each time I am told of something in my kitchen that is killing me.  Luckily though for Coca Cola Australia and Maldon I cannot be spoken out of diet coke or copious amounts of salt.

I know other people that are sticky like me but in different areas. For instance there are people that allow other people’s moods to stick to them.  I once worked with someone who could best be described as vapour.  She was without any substance of her own but she would take on whatever the general mood of the office was.

On Monday Vapour would  arrive without any personality or mood of her own and  within ten minutes of being in the office she would have a hangover  just like everyone  else.  If someone was angry she was angry until she went to lunch with someone that was happy.  There was a time when three of the girls in the office were pregnant. We considered covering her in a condom so that she didn’t take on their pregnancy.

A friend of mine  works with someone who she claims is Teflon. Whatever is going on at the office she escapes it – absolutely nothing sticks to her. The entire company can be brought before the CEO in shackles (not that I think this happens often) but somehow the CEO will tell her to wear ballet shoes and dance to the kitchen to avoid the meeting.  If she does something that is wrong and it affects the company’s performance or impacts other people in a negative way,  she always manages to slide off  the blame – she just won’t wear it.  She really is very Teflon.

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I’m sure that state of mind dictates how sticky you are or how much Teflon coating you are covered with,  I know that when I am feeling low I tend to take more stuff on and that when I am in a happier place it is easier to let things slide.  And I am pretty sure that you can be very sticky in some areas and Grade A Teflon in others,  I just wish there was something other than Maldon salt and diet coke that I was Teflon about.

What about you – are you Teflon or are you sticky?

 

 

You cannot cure schizophrenia

I don’t want to write an anti- government post. Wait, that’s not true.  I want to write how angry I am with the government, the mental health system and the fact that there is no long term for care for people with mental illness in this country.  And no, allowing mentally ill people  to live in hostels with no medical supervision or no follow up and having people living on the streets is not considered long term care in my book.

My brother-in-law is schizophrenic.  If his illness were physical he would be in a hospital, he’d have 24 hour care and people would flood his room with love, flowers and good wishes.  But his illness is mental.  So he is alone and scared .  And he is not in a hospital.  In fact he is in between homes AGAIN.

He is often between homes because he is sick. Would this happen if his illness were physical? Of course not, but because his illness is mental he behaves inappropriately and he gets evicted from whichever place his parents have found him to live.  I am not having a go at the numerous landlords who have evicted him,   I know he is hard work. I know that they cannot put up with the erratic and often alarming behaviour.  He is one of my family and I find it hard.

He has not one friend in the world and he cannot hold down a job.  His days are a nightmare of medication induced sleep and loud and menacing voices that only he can hear. He is a man you would see in the street and dismiss as being a homeless addict but he is my husband’s brother.  He is a son, an uncle and a very kind and generous soul. He used to be an energetic and charismatic person but his disease has taken his personality and whipped it into a scared (and sometimes scary) person.

The toll that the disease has taken on him is as clear as the mess it has left in its wake. My husband and his family are in a state of perpetual worry.  They  agonise about the man they love and they don’t know how to help him.

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The private hospitals wont treat him.  In fact the last time he spent three nights in a private hospital they sent him home saying he was not sick enough to be there –  the next day he was arrested for assault.  Seems sick enough to me.  Then he was evicted from his home again and he cried because he didn’t understand why.

I watch my husband filled with despair about his brother and my heart goes out to him.  I see the pain and concern in his eyes and I want to tell him that he’ll be okay, that we’ll look after him.  But it wont be okay and we cannot look after him because he is too sick and he needs psychiatric care.

I wonder what goes on in my brother-in-law’s head.  But, when I see him listening intently to sounds that aren’t there or when he starts to tell stories that have no basis in reality I can’t bear to think of it anymore and I can switch off.  He can’t.  He lives this nightmare each and every day.

What are we supposed to do? Where can we get help for him? How can we make this hideous nightmare of a life bearable in the long run?

Do you notice the people around you?

On Saturday  night Mr Pencil and I had a rare night out alone, Little Pencil was sleeping at a friend and although we tried to gather some friends to join us – we left it till about 7:30pm and so everyone was already “otherwise engaged”.

It is really not that often that we get to go out just the two of us because Mr Pencil does ever so love a crowd, well not so much a crowd but a larger group to laugh at his jokes and share drinks with him and the truth is, as I often tell my friends, I am sure that people go out with us because of my Mr Pencil.  He is articulate, he is smart, he is entertaining and very funny.  And he is also very friendly.

But on Saturday night I had him all to myself and because we were so amazingly organised we walked the streets of Surry Hills after going to the restaurant we had planned to eat at an hour after they had closed their list,  Side note: what kind of restaurant closes their list at 8:30 and gets a person with shaved hair on one side and waist length hair on the other to tell you this nugget of information?

There we were, him the carnivore and me the vegetarian trying to find a place to feed us and a space to seat us.

We happened along a cute little Italian place that had space at the bar only.  Cool, we were happy to sit at the bar – it meant we are closer to the drinks.    And really we were pretty starving at this point so we would take whatever was given to us.

And there we are sitting at the bar when the two very beautiful girls sitting at the bar next to us started to engage Mr Pencil in polite discussion about his drink, his choice of dinner and his accent.  What is this about?  It is about my husband.  He doesn’t do the two person dinner.  Even if I try.
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They were gorgeous girls and they were interesting too.  And they loved South African accents and so we are both forced to chat to them. It was nothing like a pick up of old, they weren’t actually interested in taking us home to bed (although Mr Pencil may have written this blog post differently in his head) but they were interested in talking to Mr Pencil, er I mean us.

I love to meet new people, I love to hear interesting stories and learn to see things from a different perspective so I  was not to upset that these girls had joined us.  My biggest problem?  The one girl had the same very bad shaved hair on the one side and waist length hair on the other side style!  Try as I might I  could not bring it up with her although I really wanted to .  Mr Pencil?  He didn’t even notice.

Why is that that some people do the noticing while others are noticed?

I don’t think it’s always necessarily about the way you look because even though I think my husband is good to look at, I know that people are attracted to his intellect – he is smart.  And very entertaining.  He is interested in other people but he doesn’t really notice them.  I notice people but seldom get strangers talking to me (although I sometimes talk to them).

So looks aside – do you notice the people around you or do they notice you?

Supermarket saviours

When Little Pencil was a smaller pencil I bought him one of those cash register toys, a fancy one with a bar code scanner attached that made the requisite electronic noises. It was one of my favourite acquisitions perhaps because I always dreamed of being a “check out chick”.  I often watched the women at Coles masterfully scanning packets and boxes, I was full of rapt wonder when the biscuits passed the sensor causing the register to acknowledge the price.  And they always made it look like they were in such control, working with such purpose.  I’ll  admit that this does not paint my childhood in the most idyllic of lights but it definitely talks to my desire for routine and structure.  Oh how I wanted to be the person controlling the scanner.

Nowadays you don’t need toys.  Anyone can play “check out chick” at your local supermarket.  In fact you seldom get a choice, not that you’d ask for one. I always choose the self scan checkout and I’ll tell you that their machinery is a lot more sophisticated than the Fisher Price model.  It’s like reliving that childhood fantasy but you can’t pay with thick yellow discs of plastic as per the home version.

As much as I love playing with the scanner and the cash register I do feel sad for the people that will be losing their jobs through this advancement in retail technology.  Fortunately I see many niche markets that the major chains may have missed where they could create further employment opportunities.

Enviro Bag Reminder

Supermarkets could create a brilliant environmental customer service by having a person roam the parking lots looking for people exiting their cars and approaching the supermarket doors.  Their job would simply be to tap said shopper on the shoulder and say “go back to your car and get the enviro bags in your boot”.  Simple.  I need that person.

Calorie Converter

I recently went on a calorie controlled diet and I could not believe the huge differences in calorific content of even the different types of breads.  If I had a friendly Calorie Converter person (not book or appliance) to point to various products and tell me the calories, fat and sugar content, I would cut my shopping time by at least two hours. This would be a specialised job only available to customers who request it.

Dinner Selector

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The Tall Shelf Selector

Supermarkets could easily provide one tall person per aisle that would rush to the aid of short people who can’t reach the top shelf without unbalancing several shelf displays.  In fact the Tall Shelf Selector would ideally be very flexible and nimble so that s/he could reach the bottom shelves for older people or people with backs problems.

The Lolly Distractor

Not sure how the supermarket would feel about funding this one but perhaps we could get the Dental Society to contribute to this cause.  The Lolly Distractor would have the unenviable task of standing around the queues and diverting children’s attention away from the rows of lollies put there to taunt them.  They would be equipped with balls to juggle, bubbles to blow and all manners of magical equipment prepared by David Copperfield.

Plastic Bag Opener

If you have escaped the Enviro Bag Reminder person in the parking lot you will definitely need the plastic bag opener.  There is nothing more embarrassing than taking 5 minutes to find the opening of your plastic bag.  When there are hordes of people watching how fast you can scan your groceries and you cannot even manage to open the bag, it is really humiliating. Ask me.  I know

Who do you need when you go shopping?