I knew last week was going to be hard
Mamamia 3.0 had just gone live and there was lot of behind the scenes scurrying and hard work involved. I hadn’t had much sleep because of said site going live and my extreme control freakishness.
It was still school holidays and although I had Little Pencil booked into a camp that he was thrilled about going to there was a lot of juggling required to get him there on time and of course to make sure he got home.
There was going to be two nights of Passover. While we are not religious at all (and that is a post for another day) we are traditional so we were having two nights of HUGE dinners with insane amounts of people. I was having the second night at my house, there were more than 20 people coming for dinner and I was working that day.
So I organized myself. Lifts were arranged for Little Pencil, work was on track and I was going to spend the whole weekend shopping, cooking and preparing so that I could come home from work on Tuesday and seamlessly entertain 23 people for dinner.
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My mother-in-law’s partner, a gentle and wonderful man who had been partner to my mother in law for ten very happy years died suddenly. He was 89.
Saturday was spent at my mother-in-law, consoling her, preparing tea and cake for the hundreds of people who came through her door to pay their respects. I momentarily thought about how I was going to manage catering for 23 people on the Tuesday night but it was not top of mind. And when it worried me I thought I would cook on Sunday.
On Saturday night the phone rang again. My friend’s mother had ended a hideous struggle with a devastating disease.
So I never got to cook much, I never got to go to work much either but I spent time with my family. I sat with my friend whose mother had died and I didn’t worry about how I was going to organize everything.
It was a sad week. A hard week. A week that taught me that at the end of the day it’s not work or dinner parties or school holiday activities that are important. It’s family and good friends – they make the difference between life and death.
Oh hon. What a big week … the kind that takes a while to recover from. Go gently xox
Loved this, and needed to read it. Last Monday, I attended the funeral of one of my close friends- I girl I pretty much grew up with, and only 46. The funeral and wake went from 12-12 essentially, and I stressed all weekend over who would mind my kids (school holidays) so I could go and honour Sal… and in the end 12 different people offered. That’s the stuff that matters- that I spent time with friends who are essentially family, and that friends and family enabled me to do so. Am so glad that you managed what mattered too. xx
For you Lana…such a shock and two deaths in rapid succession…woah.
Sometimes, like then & now, all that you previously “thought” you could control and had in the past comes to nought.
Your eyes, heart and mind were opened, through the pain, suffering and downright suddenness.
Haven’t we all …worried about the what ifs, crossed off lists, planned to the nth degree…to have LIFE and it’s cycles…give us a message we may not have heard for a while.
Friends
Family
Love
Being there
It all comes together…and humbles us, and helps us on our way along the road.
Thank you so much for sharing the week(s)… blessings to you, Mr P, LP , FP & of course your M.iL. & Friend Xxx
For those who read this post and didn’t already know – I met Lana when I gave birth to my third child three weeks after my sister died. Lana – whose son is in my daughter’s class at school – organised a roster of meals to be brought to me so I didn’t have to worry about food for around three months. This is a woman who knows what caring is. Lana my love, you’re amazing and I wish you a beautiful year from now on.
Wow. Kerri, I did some math in my head lately – and have been thinking of your Boo. And how she’s three – Rocco is nearly three. There must have been so much turmoil AND joy around the time of her birth. Ditto.
… I had my own beautiful Lana’s up here, organising a food roster. And I’m a complete stand-offish mum at school – my sister was all, “Imagine the food you would have got if you were NICE!”
Can’t wait to catch up with you, with Lana .. and all of the other amazing women who will be at your launch on Thursday. Strong kickarse women beget strong kickarse women. It’s a Law.
xox
Oh Lana sorry to hear your week was so sad. Sometimes we are sent times like this to remind us that our relationships are more important than other stuff. As Eden says – go gently xxx
Sending good thoughts through the universe to you and the family. And thank you for the timely reminder about the big things that really matter. X
What a beautiful post, Lana.
I’m so sorry for your losses this week.
I’ve learned over the years that life really means nothing without family and good friends.
Chag Sameach
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Sorry to hear about your week. Death is so confronting and horrible. It does put things in perspective and make you realise life’s too short to sweat the little things. But oh to be immortal … and never have to say goodbye
Hi Lana, so sorry for the week you have had and the loss around you. The thing that shines through in your post is that amidst what I am sure was stressful, chaotic and sad, you were so very present to what counts in times like these and that is a wonderful quality. Wishing you peace this week xx ps: I get the control freakish thing, I have that too 🙂
the universe has a way of unprising our fingers when we think we have too tight a grip on everything, doesn’t it? sorry to you and your wonderful Mums for their losses this week. i have no doubt they are counting the blessing that is such a wonderful daughter. xt
Ah, that is the hardest of weeks for all of you. Sending best wishes and thoughts.
Hugs and long life to you and yours Lana. Very sorry to hear of the losses, your poor MIL and friend, but pleased to know you are surrounded by those who care for you, as you do them. A quieter time will come. x
So true. I had similar thoughts while I sat by my eldest girl’s bedside in hospital. She had an asthma attack as my husband and I were getting ready to go out for his swanky bday dinner. Hospital staff kept commenting in jest “Gee, happy birthday dad!” But you know what, it was a happy bday. Our little girl was ok. That’s the best b’day present ever. We can always reschedule.
I hope you get a restful few days to recharge after what sounds like a terribly difficult week xx
Such a moving post…and so very, very true. xo
Hard times. Hope that you get some rest and time to reflect for yourself in there somewhere.
I needed that reality check, thanks Lana….xxx Thoughts are with you and the family
Oh Lana, I am so sorry to hear this. I hope you’ve managed to take some time out and look after YOU also. Thinking of you xx