Why is everyone so angry over Mother’s Day?

Mother's DayI’ve been watching my Twitter and Facebook feeds with interest and increasing agitation over the last week or so. And as we get closer to Mother’s Day it gets worse.

So much grief about a day dedicated to Mother’s. Or Hallmark.

There are the people who make it absolutely clear that, whatever happens, they don’t want to spend any time with their children on Mother’s Day, likewise the people who are adamant that they are not spending Mother’s Day with their own mothers. [Read more…]

You have to watch this video: “Have the homeless become invisible?”

I am not sure when I started to look at people and think about them when they were babies. I think it must have been soon after I had a baby of my own.

It’s a habit I still can’t shake – I look at people on the street, on TV, in the supermarket and think that once they were babies too. Once they were innocent and pure and had cheeks that you wanted to pinch and cute little thigh and elbow dimples. I can almost smell their newborn odour.
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I could never take on this job

prince-william-kate-middleton-diane-von-furstenberg-patrice-wrap-dressWhen I was younger, (much, much, much younger) I was completely in love with Princesses Stephanie and Caroline of Monaco. Possibly “in love” is the wrong phrase because I obviously never met them but obsessed sounds so ominous, and I swear I wasn’t going to hurt them, I just wanted to know every single thing about them and possibly have them as my best friends.

I devoured every magazine article about them and that was about all because there was no internet and I lived in Johannesburg, South Africa and they lived in Monaco. (Although when I was in my late teens I travelled to Monaco and stared at their castle for hours, I even saw a car enter the gates.)
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The festival of breaking free

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Right now, all over the world Jews are celebrating the festival of Passover (or Pesach). Passover commemorates the emancipation of the Israelites from slavery in ancient Egypt, in order to make it really symbolic and to drum that message of freedom home, there are seemingly hundreds of rituals that accompany the Passover festival.  It is believed that following these, we have the ability to relive and experience the true freedom that our ancestors gained.

I am not incredibly religious (and by that I mean I am not at all religious) but I do come from a traditional family and so every year we get together to celebrate the Jewish festivals in the traditional way  – meaning we celebrate mostly by eating.
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A “Frozen” lesson in the Jewish festival of Passover (it’s way funnier than it sounds)

I have seen so many different versions of the songs from Frozen that I was actually forced to see the movie. And it was very cute.

But I think this version that ties in the Jewish festival of Passover is by far the cleverest…

The Huffington Post reports “Jewish acapella group Six13 is celebrating “our freedom, our favorite festival, our fabulous fans, and aspiring Disney princesses everywhere” with a Passover-themed cover of “Let It Go” and “Do You Want to Build a Snowman?”

Passover (or Pesach) celebrates the liberation of the Jewish people from Egypt and the English name Passover refers to the fact that God is said to have passed over” the houses of the Jews when he was slaying the firstborn of Egypt (it’s a complicated story).

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The best analysis on Beyonce’s Drunk In Love lyrics

Thank god I’m not alone. Truth be told there had been whispers before, but at least now I have proof that I’m not alone in just not getting Beyoncé

Granted my sisters-in-arms are markedly older than I am (although just having recently stepped off a 14 hour flight we look remarkably similar) but I think their reading of the lyrics of Beyoncé’s latest hit  helps define everything I’m having trouble with. Except of course her dress but I’ll get to that later

Take a look

Nice lyrics when you look at it like that. Or when you don’t. But now I’m going to get serious.

When we hear songs with lyrics that may offend our delicate children’s ears we are quick to denounce the teeny bopper stars. We complain about the way Miley Cyrus dresses and pokes out her tongue, we slam people like Rihanna for taking off their gear and posting selfies of themselves in bed. But Beyoncé tells us that she is a feminist and so we seem to accept that she can behave in any way she wants because, well because FEMINIST.

But in truth her lyrics are not just explicit they may be deemed offensive.

Time.com reports

When Beyoncé and Jay Z opened the Grammy Awards ceremony … with a performance of their song “Drunk in Love,” it sparked an immediate conversation about CBS bleeping the song’s language and Bey’s chair-dancing skills but …, a far more in-depth debate has resurfaced about the song’s lyrics.

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Even before the Grammys brought the song extra publicity, a rep from a British radio station told E! that their radio edit of the song would cut the line in question because they didn’t want to “condone” domestic violence — but the headline-grabbing performance has brought the song back into the spotlight, particularly because Bey sang along with the Anna Mae line. The Guardian‘s post-Grammys take called the lyric “disturbing” and “distasteful”; at Bustle, they describe her complicity in the offending phrase as “gross misconduct.” At Colorlines, the lyric and the Grammys performance were interpreted as evidence that the star — who has been vocal about her feelings on gender equality — is less of a feminist than she might appear. (Nobody has put forth an argument that “Drunk in Love” is talking about domestic abuse at the Carter home; rather, the idea that an actual case of abuse could be used in a suggestive joke implies that Beyoncé either doesn’t think domestic violence is that big of a deal or, at best, she doesn’t give much thought to the consequences of her words.)

I’d love to hear Beyonce talk about these lyrics because while she may be penning articles on feminism, she’s not answering the people who want to know why she’s condoning domestic violence in her performances.

When Kim Kardashian (and yes, I agree Beyonce has talent that Kim doesn’t have) had a baby and then posted pics of her post baby body people went all Mother Grundy and cried with comments like “why show your body/ where’s your baby?” but Beyonce has a baby and trots around with very little on and those same people coo – “aw, she’s stunning she can dress however she wants because she is a feminist and it’s her choice”.

I don’t get it. I don’t see Beyonce as an icon to feminism, I don’t see her as a role model I would want my child to look up to. I just don’t get her at all.

I would love someone to explain to me with words not just adoration, what Beyonce has that makes her more appealing than any other dancing singer who strips off her kit and sings along with her  husband words like  “beat the box up like Mike in ’97”. (Box is a slang term for vagina and the reference to Mike is to Mike Tyson who is a convicted rapist )- maybe she just likes her sex rough. But maybe I don’t need to hear that anymore than I need to see Miley pleasuring herself, Rihanna getting it on in her bed or Beyonce herself wearing next to nothing while she promotes her music and her feminism.

Here’s the video of Beyonce performing her song Drunk In Love

What do you think?

Rest in peace Charlotte Dawson

I sat down at my computer this morning thinking about what I could write for my blog, I felt I’d been a bit heavy lately and was going to try be funny but then I read about the passing of Charlotte Dawson and I just feel sick. Sad. Stunned and sick.

I have long suffered from some pretty shit serious depression, hospitalised for it many times over. I never speak about it. I’m not even going to do that now. But I do know that swamp of blackness that seems impenetrable. I know the feeling of not being able to carry the weight of air, of not being able to lift your legs to walk. I know that feeling.

I know about bleakness that cannot even be considered close to sadness, of emptiness that cannot be explained. I know those days that have no beginning and never end.

I know that Charlotte Dawson was a brave, brave woman. It is not yet known how she died but that’s irrelevant because we know how she lived – with serious, at times life-threatening depression. And she owned that illness in a world filled with people who judged her punished her without even knowing her

Nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors, nobody knows what you are feeling inside, how you are coping or what’s behind the façade you carry.

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Rest in Peace Charlotte Dawson. Only peace

Please remember the number for Lifeline 13 11 14You are never alone

 

A mental health system that’s failing the mentally ill (and their children)

Luke-BattyRecently I had a fight with one of my very closest friends. It was a public fight that took place on Twitter for all the world to see. I argued with her and I argued with other friends, I even argued with strangers. But some strangers supported me and many people I knew took my side, others contacted me privately and told me their point of view. It was a very public fight about a very public story – that of Greg Hutchings who took his daughter’s life before taking his own.

I cannot condone such a hideous act and never would but that does not mean I can’t have compassion for a man who is at such a desperate place that he takes his child’s life and then his own.

There was so much anger expended against this man because… well for one he killed his daughter I guess, but I think they felt anger because they assumed it was an act of revenge or malice. The man had no history of mental illness, he wasn’t being treated for psychosis or depression or bipolar disorder.
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The Winter Olympics and the art of complaining

sochi olympicsThere is no sport that my husband won’t watch on TV. Rugby, golf, cricket, skiing, NFL, even darts (which I contest is not actually a sport) he is there, eyes glued. Tennis, swimming, athletics, snooker (again not really a sport) he watches with rapt attention. I on the other hand rather love to fall asleep to sport on TV so basically we are very well suited couple.

It’s a nightly routine : Mr Pencil channel surfs for a while grumbling away that there is nothing good on TV and as soon as he settles on a channel and starts watching a ball being flung around a field or people testing the limits of their endurance I fall asleep.

But last night was different. Last night Mr Pencil didn’t let me sleep because he suddenly turned into one of those crotchety old men that like to write into newspapers with a fountain pen and complain to the world in general that they are unhappy.
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Nobody chooses to be an addict

Philip Seymour Hoffman died at age 46. The same age I will be in 4 months time.

The fact that he is dead is tragic. The cause of his death even more so.  While I cannot speculate on his life and how he lived it I do know that nobody chooses to be an addict. No one picks up their first drink or their first drug with the intention of becoming an alcoholic or an addict.

Just because you are rich and you have all the trappings of that wealth it doesn’t preclude you from being human, from being scared or anxious, from feeling pain or emotion.  Just because you are famous it doesn’t mean you don’t have self doubt and think too much or care too deeply, just because you have minders and entourages it doesn’t mean you don’t get lonely or feel isolated.

Just because you have children it does not mean you are not human. Just because you use drugs does not mean you are a junkie.

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(With thanks to Zoey Martin at The Shake where I was first rocked by this video)

Rest in Peace Philip Seymour Hoffman and may your family find strength at this horrifically dark time.